Single Parent Adoption Services

Welcome! My name is Kelly Carmody, and I'm the founder of A Love Beyond Borders, and Director of International programs, and a single adoptive parent.

I'm welcoming you personally to our Single Parent Adoption site because I am a single adoptive parent with a passion for helping other singles adopt. I too struggled with whether or not I could -- and should -- adopt but I did my research, fought the naysayers and the cultural "norms" and pursued my dream. Fifteen months after making a commitment to become a mom, on a glorious Fall day in a baby house in Kazakhstan, I embraced my 11 month old daughter for the first time and the rest is, as they say, history! The experience changed my life for the better as I'm confident it will yours - just as it has for the many singles we have assisted over the years. Not only did it impact me to the point that I left a lucrative corporate job to work in adotion and child welfare, but now, many years later my daughter and I added to our family through our adoption of a 12 year old from Colombia and a year later a 16 year old girl. Both joined our family through our Colombian Host to Adopt Program. Adoption will change your life and it certainly will change the life of the child!

You've landed at a warm and welcoming adoption agency where we do not discriminate against single applicants. In fact, we welcome qualified single men and women to adopt in several countries such as Bulgaria, Colombia, Haiti, and public and private adoptions in the United States. I'm confident you'll find useful information on our site to help you with your decision making. Once you decide to change your life and that of a child through adoption and begin your journey with A Love Beyond Borders, you will find us to be a strong advocate and partner for your adoption wherever you choose to adopt.

Now..."Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined."  Henry David Thoreau

 

 

Founder and Director of International Programs
 

Single Women Adoption and Single Men Adoption

 So you're a single man or woman and contemplating adoption? You may even be asking the question; "Can I adopt if I'm single?" Yes, single women and men may adopt through A Love Beyond Borders! ​A Love Beyond Borders provides adoption services to single men and women who are US citizens living in the US or abroad! We are proud of the many single applicants who received our services through various parts of their adoption process, whether home study, pre-adoption education, placement services or post adoption services. Many are featured on this page with their children in their arms.

On November 9, 2015 the Colombian government approved gay individuals and married couples to adopt from Colombia! Read about it HERE.  Due to the change of law A Love Beyond Borders is now able to offer adoption services in Colombia to the gay men and lesbian community. 

It is important to note that our ability to assist any single applicant is determined in part by the laws governing adoption in your state of residence, because some states do not allow adoption by gay applicants. Please do check with your state before applying. 

Do you like statistics? Frankly they bore me, but once in a while I'll see one and think, "wow!" and this is one of those times! These statistics are encouraging: Did you know that one-third of all US adoptions happen in single family homes? 

According to a 2013 National Survey of Adoptive Parents, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, 27 percent of adoptive parents are single men and women! Approximately 22.7 percent are female, 5.5 percent male. Since the 1970's, across the country the number of single parent placements slowly and steadily continues to increase, both in domestic and inter country adoption. International options are on a slight decrease but are still a viable option if you are flexible and patient.

  • Most single adoptive parents are female, are most likely to adopt older children than infants, and are less likely to have been a foster parent to the adopted child.
  • Single parent applicants are self-selective. Most applicants have high levels of emotional maturity and high capacity for frustration, and are independent but linked to a supportive network of relatives.
  • As a group, the single parent adopters of U.S. children tended to adopt "special needs" children who were older, minority, and/or handicapped children.

But wait, there's more positive news for single prospective adoptive parents!

1. Research has shown that the adjustment rates of children adopted into single parent homes equates to the adjustment rates of children adopted into more traditional households.

2. Single parent households that complete an adoption are more likely to feel like the outcome of their efforts was positive.

3. Children with special needs who were adopted into single parent homes were shown to have fewer overall problems than similar children adopted by two parent homes.

4. The number of single parents interested in adopting a child has slowly continued to increase.

5. 89% of parents agree that even with behavioral episodes, they are not unhappy about their decision to adopt a child.

 

What does this mean for you, the single male or female seeking to create or expand your family through adoption?

As a single adoptive parent you may face a little more of a challenge than a married couple but there are many ways to be successful in your goal of adoption.

The Single Parent Profile

1. Women are more likely to adopt children as single parents than men are and are the most likely group to adopt an older child in need.
2. Most single parent applicants have emotional stability and a support network of family and friends that will help them raise an adopted child.
3. Single parent adoptions are also one of the groups that adopts the most special needs children who need families.
4. Unmarried women are more likely to pursue international adoption over domestic adoption.
5. Single women often pursue motherhood for the same reasons married women do.

In fact, as we already know, thousands of singles adopt children from the US and foreign countries each year.
 
Few would argue that it might be more difficult for a single parent to take care of the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of a child than it is for two parents. This is based on the very real limits of one person verses two in time, energy and financial resources. These barriers add fuel to the view of many adoption professionals and social welfare experts who believe that the best placement for a child is with a family that has a mother and a father.  While the "traditional" family structure has certainly changed in the U.S., there is still hesitation on the part of some professionals to accept single parent adoption. This hesitation is reflected in the varying policies of adoption agencies.

A Love Beyond Borders is different -- we do not discriminate based on marital status although we may be limited in inter-country options depending on the laws or cultural acceptance by the foreign government.

 

ALBB Inter-country Programs Which Allow Single Adoptions and Gay Parent Adoptions

Programs offered by LBB that accept single heterosexual women:
Bulgaria, Colombia, Uganda, Haiti and United States

Programs offered by LBB that accept single heterosexual men:
Bulgaria, Colombia, Haiti and United States

International Programs offered by ALBB which accept gay and lesbian individuals and same sex couples:

Adoption for Gay and Lesbian Singles

Gay and lesbian singles and couples may adopt in the United States both in a private adoption and in most states through foster care or adoption of a waiting child. They may openly adopt in a very few foreign countries. As noted above, in November 2015 the high court of Colombia approved gay and lesbian single and couples to adopt!  It is the first foreign country in which we are able to offer adoption services for gay and lesbians, and we welcome you to apply.  We have always provided home study, pre-placement and post placement services for gay and lesbian individuals and couples in the US and continue to offer the essential services so that you may pursue a private adoption in the US or if you find a country that will accept your adoption petition. The Bureau of Consular Affairs, US Department of State has some information regarding LGBT inter-country adoptions. Access their resources at this link.

If you feel that adopting a child is your heart's desire contact us to find out the inter-country program that best meets your wants and qualifications. Call A Love Beyond Borders today at 303-333-1572 or fill out the application at Apply for Adoption.


Additional Resources for Single Women Adoption and Single Men Adoption

Here are additional online resources for you to explore as you contemplate adoption.  In this section you will find resources on single-parent adoption from the Child Welfare Information Gateway.

The Daddy Question
Adoptive Families Magazine
Provides a personal perspective as a single adoptive mother.

Single Parent Adoption
Adopting.org
Includes resources, information, and support for both domestic and international adoption.

Single Parent Adoption: One Mom Shares the Joys and Realities
Rainbowkids.com
Provides a personal perspective on the experiences of single-parent adoption.

Single Parent Adoption Is Possible
National Adoption Center
Includes adoption resources for those who wish to pursue single-parent adoption.

Single Parent Adoptions
The Adoption History Project
A historical perspective on single-parent adoptions.

Single Parent Adoption Guide from the Child Welfare Information Gateway